Could we raise the temperature?

Posted: 2017-08-13

Tags: conversation



See this great post Honing mode vs Jamming mode (in conversation) by Malcolm Ocean.

Sometimes I am disappointed by conversations and social interactions, thinking them not as satisfying as imagined conversations and interactions. In imagined conversations, people say what they truly think.1 They say out loud “I am a plant,” if they feel like a plant, not matter how irrational the thought is. In real life, they excuse themselves, “I’m afraid I don’t feel so well,” and then sit alone and mull, Why did I think I was a plant just now? Is there something wrong with me?.

The solution isn’t to not converse, but to say and accept these thoughts which are this different kind of true.

  1. The rationalist community calls these “aliefs”.